I myself have lived for years with grammar in strife, fear, shame and worthlessness. My talents are versatile, unfortunately, they are not great in grammar. A writing weakness, has made my professional life so, often to hell. As a speech and language personality, in courses with flipcharts to be condemned to silence out of fear and shame to be asked to write in front of everyone is a torture.
For many years I tried everything to avoid and hide this "flaw" that I considered it. I was also constantly told how stupid and uneducated people are who make writing mistakes. That it had to do with laziness and indifference.
Mostly, the same people have not taken the time to understand the content. Their focus is and was always only how many words were misspelled.
So I too condemned myself, and stressed out at everything I wrote. Which leads to many more mistakes.
Then every time someone saw my mistakes and corrected me I felt it was a personal failure and a complete failure.
Honestly, when I read a text, I don't care about the grammar. It's the content that's valuable. It's the same with gifts, we don't complain if the packaging is a little unattractive.
For years I have been trying to understand why so many people only look at the mistakes in texts and measure the content according to how high the sum of the mistakes is.
Today, I'm being open about it in new places. I explain that I have a writing weakness and ask for forgiveness for any mistakes.
And voila I make, then usually also much less mistakes and when it is no longer a problem for me.
A few days ago, however, I was triggered again. I realized that it had hurt me again when a friend told me how many mistakes I had in a small post. My reaction to myself was how stupid I am not to write even 5-8 lines without mistakes.
I realized for the first time that I myself make a difference if I make my weakness openly in a room where people see me or if I write texts where I can't explain myself.
With this realization I realized again that I am still ashamed of my weakness. But now I told myself that if I have something to say I should say it no matter how many mistakes are in my text.
People who pay more attention to the content will see the mistakes but they will have no importance.
Basically, we should always think about how important packaging is versus content.
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